Thursday, December 15, 2016

Making the Most of Family Togetherness over Winter Break.
          The younger kids (K-1) have been learning to identify their emotions by listening to the messages their bodies are  sending them and observing the facial expressions of others.  Developing self-awareness is crucial before we can put ourselves in someone else’s shoes and respond compassionately to them.  Ask your child where in their body they feel an emotion when they are frustrated, disappointed, excited, or scared.   A converted game of Candy Land taught students skills of emotional self-regulation while practicing wise Wizard brain responses this week.  Please contact me at an@teensinc.org if you would like a copy to play over the winter break. 
     The older students in 2nd -5th grade have been developing collective “Acts of Kindness.  Ms. Ness’ class is doing chores for family members, or perhaps serving them breakfast in bed.  Ms. Lee’s class is performing jokes for the preschoolers.  Ms. Albright’s class is showing gratitude to their teachers and celebrating with a party.  Ms. Vosteen’s class decorated the school with positive and inspirational messages.  Ms. Beauvineau’s class is expressing gratitude to kitchen staff/office workers/custodians/ and community members.  Ms. Theodorakos’ class is serving as reading buddies for the first grade.  Ms. Forrest’s class is decorating the cafeteria into a winter wonderland.   The excitement of creating and planning an activity that benefits others filled the school.  Helping children learn the joy of giving is a powerful lesson in empathy.  Kindness is infectious.  Compassion is contagious.  See if your children can continue to find ways to “give of themselves” over the break. 
     As we enter winter break, kids (and adults) may suddenly be left with either tons of unstructured time or overstimulating environments.  Many children begin to melt down and act out.  Here are some suggestions that may ease your family through the festivities and long days:
1.        Encourage your children to breathe slowly and deeply when they are feeling overwhelmed.  Take 5 minutes to practice pushing the RESET button before plowing ahead into the next activity.  Breathe with them – you’ll love how it calms yourself down too.
2.       Help children check in with their bodies to see if they are tired or hungry.  Late night festivities and lots of sweets can leave children grouchy.  Try to keep a regular routine for healthy eating and sleeping so their bodies and emotions aren’t taxed to the limit.
3.       Take time to lay on the floor and do a whole body relaxation exercise with your children.  Tighten each muscle from toe to head for 7 seconds and then release while breathing out.  Then tighten your entire body and release it by shaking your arms and legs as you walk around.   It is amazing how much tension we all carry around with us that can be lessened with intentional practices. 
4.       Set time limits for using technology.  Don’t let technology babysit your child for more than an hour or two per day.  Endless screen time creates crabby children.   Being “bored” forces children to come up with creative and imaginative activities.  Provide suggestions and materials to stimulate their creative side.
5.       Find ways to nurture yourself.  Exercise.  Plan a date night.  Connect with other families.  Laugh and share while you ignore the piles of laundry, layers of dust, and accumulating emails. 
6.       Schedule some down time each day to read, listen to music, color a mandala, do a family puzzle together.   Too much interaction can be overstimulating.   We all need time to refuel and refill our cups. 
 Our nervous systems sometimes need to be slowed down.  Other times they need ramped up for us to feel in balance.  Be aware of the amount of stimulation and relaxation that are woven throughout each day.  Take steps to move and awaken your bodies, or to relax them, as you journey through the winter break together.   

Enjoy!   We can’t wait to see you and your children again in the New Year!

Ann Sherman, Social Emotional Learning Instructor and Parenting Matters Coordinator

720-561-4861     ann@teensinc.org

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